Can you help - don't know how to move on?

my husband was away 4 a night 2 a meeting in london with a friend of his after meeting a few of them ended up in a lap dancing club my husband says he thought they were going on to a late bar (we r from the North). He says he just stood at the bar on his own while his mates flitted between dances, girls were asking him if he wanted a dance but he said no, then a girl came over when his mates were there and there was a lot of pushing and shoving, one of his mates gave him the money to have the dance says it was easier to hve 1, he told me straight away about it, as this is the type of relationship we have, we are honest with each other, this is the first time, and he really regrets it, does not no why he did this but said there was a lot of pressure. I really believe him, but I just can't get it out of my head that he has this woman **** near his face, he says didnt do anything for him we r strong enough to work through this, which I no we are r but need 2 4get and move on please helpCan you help - don't know how to move on?
Hey hon,

You have a wonderful man there. He was up front with you and didn't hide anything from you. I'm an adult entertainer and your husband did nothing wrong. He had a girl dance for him but they didn't sleep together or (him) receiving a BJ. He didn't hurt your marriage and you need to think of it this way...he came home to you. You ought to feel proud to have such a trust worthy man in your marriage. Just think of it as him watching porno or seeing a attractive woman that' dressed hot walking down the street. I'm currently dating a man and he knows what I do for a living. He doesn't care because he knows I would be coming home to him. I'm not saying there is but it sounds like there's some insecurity %26amp; jealousy within you and it's ok but remember he's home with you and not her. She got a hour with him or less, you have a lifetime with him!! You come out the winner!!! Let it go and enjoy the man who was honest enough to tell you and continue to deeply love each other!!!Can you help - don't know how to move on?
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u should be thankful that he told u and if he did it with the woman he wouldnt tell u so believe him and if he was a lier u will know coz it will show up on him in many ways like they way he haveing sex with u or the commants he is makeing about they way u dress ..

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if you believe him so much as you say you do than you should be able to jus forget it but always becareful cuz you never kno hey he is bein honest tellin yu abt it and the reason why he regrets it was cause his friends pressured him into doin it and prolly that whole time it was happenin he was prolly thinkin when will this be over cause he was prolly thinkin that its wronmg to do cause he has you and he prolly is goin through it and everything through his head now he prolly thinkin why didnt he jus tell the guys to say no a relationship is based on honesty and i wish i had a relationship like you two do and well anyways jus dont let it get to you and wish you the best of luck
Not every man is into that type of thing but even if he did it with pleasure be happy because he comes home to you every night. Get over it! He loves you apparently otherwise he would not have to you nor would he have married you.
YOu have to belive him nothing happened,if not it will make things worse. If he didnt have sex why worry. Nothing you can do if he did do any thing.. You said you really belive him ...so forgive and forget
Okay first off he told you about it he was over seas you would have never found out about it if he didn't tell you. He seems like an honest guy. Strip bars arent all that great trust me I've been to a few just to see what all the fuss was about. And when a group of guys get together and alcohol is invovled yeah peer pressure is a *****. But he seems like he was pissed off about the whole thing. You need to run to him now kiss him and then give him a little strip show of your own. You are very lucky don't you see that.
Forget about it, if he tells you this then it meant nothing to him.
You have nothing to worry about on this. Just forget all about it and move on to happier thoughts and keep your marriage strong.
Both you and your husband are making too much of this. He wasn't unfaithful, he didn't try to chat up another girl, he told you about it immediately when it would have been easier not to. It's a lap dance, hardly a hanging offence. I suggest you try and get this in perspective and be grateful you have such a loving husband.